In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few. Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind, Shunryu Suzuki
This morning, I was thrilled to discover that my new friends Melissa Studdard and Scott Lutz have written the story of their relationship which was just published in One – Volume 5- For theLove of All.”
I was fortunate to have become acquainted with Melissa and Scott at Natalie Goldberg’s Silent Writing Retreat at the Mabel Dodge Luhan house in Taos, NM in August. I met Melissa as she sat in the Living Room at Mabel Dodge and felt an immediate connection to her. She told me that her book, Six Weeks to Yehidah, was about to be published. Her excitement for her book and her description of its compelling story made me an instant fan and follower.
I met Scott the following morning of the retreat. He accompanied me on a silent, pre-dawn hike in the mountains before the retreat’s seven AM meditation practice. Although Scott is a well-trained athlete and twenty some years my junior, instead of going off and leaving me in his dust as I’d feared, he maintained a comfortable pace in which we both were able to appreciate and connect with our beautiful surroundings, a walking meditation in and of itself.
In the weeks following my return fromTaos, Melissa and I stayed in touch. She told me that she and Scott had gotten together and were developing a serious relationship. I was pleased to hear of love’s blossoming in these two beautiful people who had both been bruised by past relationships. I had a feeling then, that if these two unique people joined forces, they would create something special.
And indeed, they have. This morning when I saw that their story had been published, I immediately downloaded it and read it through. I was deeply moved. Their story carries the power of transformation and enlightenment.
It made me think of my own amazing forty-five year relationship with my husband, Ron. We met and married when we were very young and innocent, beginners in every sense of the word. We surrendered totally to love at first sight. We had no past experience to taint our trust or to create fear. We listened to an inner voice that brought us together and has kept us that way. We have been truly blessed.
But Scott and Melissa’s story is compelling in a different way. In spite of their past experiences in love and relationships they are beginning anew, much in the spirit of Beginner’s Mind as described in Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind, by Shunryu Suzuki. Their journey is a heartening reminder to let go of old wounds and fears, to participate in relationships with a beginner’s innocent curiosity.
It’s not surprising that Melissa and Scott found bedrock for their relationship in the silence of their meditation practice. In following their inner guidance they have allowed themselves the vulnerability to see through their heart’s eyes, to listen from a more silent place, to speak from a deeper wisdom, and to follow the pull of an ancient connection that has once again brought them together. In this new and powerful bond, Melissa and Scott are truly experiencing the infinite possibilities that their coming together has created. By sharing their story they are giving the gift of their love to the universe.
“For the Love of All” is a powerful and compelling story of pure honesty and openness. I feel that people come into our life for a reason, and I know there was a good reason for Melissa and Scott to come into mine. Their friendship will be an ongoing source of delight, and their joined creative spirit will be an inspiring display of the power of pure and honest love.
See my review of Six Weeks to Yehidah , Interview with Melissa Studdard or check it out under What I’m Writing here on my website.